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HOW TO NAVIGATE THE RESTORATION OF MASCULINITY
Kris Vallotton
October 19, 2022
STEPPING INTO YOUR GOD-GIVEN MASCULINITY
We live in an extremely egocentric society where men have often been culturized to think only for themselves and no one else. Far too many of these men are not equipped with the life skills needed to adequately navigate relationships, especially when it comes to fathering. Whether it’s due to the lack of a father in their own life or due to a father who didn’t take the time to teach them how to be a man, we are working with a masculinity deficit of grand proportions. What if the solution was taking these men who never received the baton of healthy masculinity and inviting them into a journey of healing and wholeness?
I recently sat down for a conversation with Dave Harvey, director of Bethel Leaders Network, to discuss how to navigate that restoration of masculinity and healthy fatherhood. We had a powerful conversation about how to be proactive as a father and the importance of being present with your children. While we were talking, Dave reminded us of a great point, that God believes in us way more than we believe in ourselves! Sometimes, our own capacity to parent our children feels insufficient, but the truth is, we have the greatest encourager of all time on our side, cheering us on like a proud dad watching His kid's soccer game. I highly encourage you to watch the full conversation below as Dave shares impactful insight into the role of present fathers today.
As Dave said, “Dads are not there to shame, pull you down or criticize. They are there to launch you into your future!” To the men reading this, know that you were born to be a dad, but you were also born to be a son. The truth is, it’s not something you have to do, it’s something you are. And when you actually connect with a father as a son, and with a son as a father, something internally is intrinsically ignited and the torch of healthy masculinity is able to be passed down to the next generation.
So today I want to encourage you to open your heart to healing if you have experienced wounding in the area of fatherhood and be willing to invite healthy masculinity into your life.
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